Living with the unknown and facing deep disappointment can bring out our less than attractive qualities. I am so lucky to have been married 14 years to my best friend and still we experience our “lockdown moments!” Why not share your ideas and coping strategies? We use a lot of list writing so that thoughts leave our body and mind. Therefore we don’t have to carry them around, weighing us down. Even with the most supportive family and friends, it can be hard for others to truly appreciate what you are going through. Thoughtless, throw away comments can cause upset. The classics so far appear to be, “it has happened for a reason!” and “are you going to bother then?” I think it’s fairly obvious that it is due to Covid 19, but these comments imply that the issue lies with the couple! No wonder brides/couples are getting fed up of “helpful” comments. So why not find other couples in the same situation and share your stories and recommend coping mechanisms. The impact of positive mental health should never be underestimated. Ask your wedding photographer if they have a Facebook group for brides and grooms past and present like we do at Nev Chambers Photography.
Another way to keep the mind productive is the prioritising of key aspects. This can help you to manage your emotions more effectively. This is challenging because in your mind you have already researched, planned and perfected your wedding day. Months/years and a great deal of energy has gone into creating a vision of the dream wedding. Now it has all been thrown up in the air. What is your highest priority? (For example: wedding photographer, wedding venue, entertainment etc.) Decide what is key to you and stick to it. We always say trust your gut instinct.